|Posted by sandralindsey on May 27, 2013 at 10:40 AM|
The noise of our lives is to the point of distraction. Instantaneous connection happens with our smart phones, email and Social Media platforms. We have become accustomed to sharing times of our lives with soundbites and without much consideration to the information's relevance in the lives of others. Taking the time to listen, understand and authentically connect to one another is getting lost in the hurried lives we live.
At times our busy schedules make us more reactive than responsive to the presentations of others, and with not a lot of free time in our busy schedules we can lose track of the things that are fundamentally important in our relationships. Listening is an action. It is a necessary part of being a present with me another.
"One of the most sincere forms of respect is actually listening to what another has to say."
Bryant H. McGill
Friendship is a welcome place to bring fears, doubts and anxieties to another person for an honest assessment of support and assurances of love and abiding care. The basis for friendships and loving relationships is respect and a mutual devotion to understanding one another.
In business relationships, listening to the co-workers that we rely on and need to be successful is essential. It keeps us aware of essential pieces of information that impact decisions and strategy that can bring about success. Information is garnered from those within our companies, consumers of our products and services, and competitors and colleagues.
"The opposite of talking isn't listening. The opposite of talking is waiting."
We all have important points. All of us. Some of us are talkative, emotional and expressive. While others of us are reserved, logical and deliberate in our comments. The diversity of our personalities brings many opportunities to learn new information from each other's experiences. Listening and waiting for recognition and responses helps us connect spiritually and meaningfully with one another.
"Most people do not listen with the intent to understand; they listen with the intent to reply."
Stephen R. Covey
Wanting to be right is something we are all guilty of at one time or another. When we connect with one another in conflict, it can be very difficult to be a good listener. We advance our points toward one another, beat each other up with facts or feelings and make more aggressive points than thoughtful ones. Listening to one another involves actively accepting another's points of view and opinions objectively before we can truly be heard by another. It's part of the Magic of Connection.
"The word listen contains the word silent."
It takes patience to truly listen to our friends, loved ones and business connections. The patience to slow down, clear our emotional responses and be present with another is essential.
"Being heard is so close to being loved that for the average person, they are almost indistinguishable."
We express our love by spending quality time, hearing what our loved ones have to say and having the opportunity to express ourselves back to those whom we love. It is a mark of love and kindness to prioritize our attention and our patience toward authentically connecting with others.