|Posted by sandralindsey on October 5, 2013 at 11:15 AM|
Self-reflection and inner serenity are the foundations of spirituality. Knowing and feeling your place in the Universe with certainty. The stressors of life, the demands on our time and the financial strain of an uncertain future can draw the inner serenity from us, and tap our strength.
On an airline flight, we are all familiar with the procedure for administering the oxygen mask to ourselves before dependent loved ones. If we aren't well, we cannot care for people we love. Staying fit and healthy in our physical bodies is a requirement. And staying fit and healthy emotionally, behaviorally and spiritually is another requirement. We cannot succeed without balance and happiness as part of our everyday lives.
"Being solitary is being alone well: being alone immersed in luxurious doings of your own choice, aware of the fullness of your won presence rather than of the absence of others. Because solitude is an achievement."
A principle I work on with people in my practice is often fighting against their perceptions of selfishness. Solitude is not a selfish act. It is an essential component to a balanced spiritual sense of self. Prayer, contemplation and inner peace come from time of reflection in a place focus upon oneself. The permission to luxuriate in your own time and your own company is often something that requires practice.
The troubled heart seeks noise, distraction, drama or challenges in an attempt to silence the inner pangs of discord. It is often the very act of distraction that steals years from our lives and fosters regret when we finally admit what we have known in our hearts. It is easier to run from difficulties than to face them.
"Our language has wildly sensed the two sides of being alone. It has created the word loneliness to express the pain of being alone. And it has created the word solitude to express the glory of being alone."
Inherent in loneliness is a disconnection from love, care and relevance. It is the silence of a heart that misses the echo of returned love. The human mind is capable of sensing loneliness even when we are amongst a large joyous crowd. In the retreat of solitude we manifest our hearts' desires. We find the solutions to our problems and we face our needs head on.
"Solitude is a place of purification."
With the settling of our hearts comes the roar of our unmet needs. The tranquility of being in touch with our Soul demands listening, not necessarily action. Feelings deserve attention. Our unhappiness threatens the core of our stability, which ultimately threatens our ability to succeed. Facing our unmet needs keeps our minds sharp and creates room in our heart for new love to enter.
"I live in that solitude, which is painful in youth, but delicious in the years of maturity."
As we age, our spiritual selves transform with reflection. Action and goals become premium uses of our time. We are more acutely aware of the limitations of time, the need to create stability and strength in our future and the heartbreak of loss. A healthy mind thrives on a clean heart. A focused heart can manifest any goal. And, increasingly, love becomes something easier to give and the returned love becomes abundant.
For yourself, consider solitude your spiritual tune up.